I really have to thank you for the confidence, and yes, the power that you gave me in that one day of listening to you. In the class, I mentioned that I am an extreme introvert, but I didnít say how over the past few years it got so bad that actually I have social anxiety. Not only is it difficult for me to speak to people, for fear of being judged by strangers and even people that I know, I really feared going into public crowded places. The mall, department and grocery stores are the worst.
After attending The Art of Confident Living on Saturday, the next - Sunday - morning I actually got dressed - in the clothes that I wanted to be seen in - then I went to Wal-Mart and Krogerís. I walked around both stores and didn't feel scared, suffocated, or stared at, nor was I ready to run out the first door that I saw.
The information about building my own image, presenting myself to the world the way I want to be known, and having people (not) judge me before they hear me, made lots of sense. I guess I can say that I've struggled with my identity for a number of reasons. I've done lots of research and read peoples thoughts on the subject, but seeing it in action put it in perspective. Now, I realize that so many other people are insecure also. The most liberating thing for me was knowing what I didn't know. I always thought there was this BIG secret that I missed, and that everyone else knew and they secretly laughed at me because I didn't know.
Mesha, my daughter, really enjoyed herself also. All I have to say is that is PRICELESS! I would have paid three times that amount for her to hear that information, and we both will see you again.
Thanks so much."
~ Mechale McDonald
"I think about you often because a lot of what I learned from you, I still use to this day. The table etiquette was helpful, but I mean more along the lines of the business suggestions you had. Building bridges, adjusting your approach, handshakes (that's so helpful in understanding someone's personality), and even wearing knee-length skirts to exude power and confidence. I've incorporated a lot of these tips into my business relationships and how I present myself. I can't get myself to wear panty hose in the summer, but all winter I do and I think you're right. I've noticed subtle differences in the way people approach me and/or relate to me. So THANK YOU!!! Have you written a book for women in business? If not, you should!!!!
Hope you're doing well."
~ Julie Kinzie
"Deborah changes people’s lives through her 'missionary' work on etiquette. It is her pulpit for preaching the 'gospel' of kindness, gratitude, manners and proper behavior. She is a visionary in seeing that these interpersonal skills, so necessary for success in life, were being lost or forgotten by each new generation of Americans. She acted on her vision by establishing a curriculum of courses for children, teens & young adults, knowing that her greatest impact would be through training our future citizens. She has raised the overall consciousness of etiquette, certainly for me and the way I interact with other people. I was already 75% of that type of person. But getting to know her, and receiving her valuable periodic e-mails with tips on social behavior, has helped me reach the next level and strive for the missing 25% at all times. To call me a fan would be an understatement. To see her value as an important Life Coach is closer to the Truth. By "raising the bar" with the standards she sets she simply helps us become better people and to have more fulfilling lives."
~ Harv Jaffe, Kirkland, WA
"Deborah King does a spectacular job of transferring her passion for etiquette and instilling it into the hearts and minds of every audience she is able to work with. She is a dynamic speaker, trainer and is flexible enough to reach the diverse age range that she works with. There is such a tremendous need for etiquette training in our world of accepting "whatever" that the proper way to act in social situations is getting lost. Deborah's passion for 'the cause' helps to revitalize the desire to know the right thing to do.
The confidence that was achieved by the young men trained by Deborah was phenomenal. She did a tremendous job convincing them that knowing how to act in social situations would provide them with the confidence they need to be successful in every situation."
~ Linda S. Paulk, President of Snelling, Dallas, Texas
"Confidence and an understanding of what you can be in life is what Final Touch Finishing School accomplishes. At age 18 our precious daughter Merrell was ready to venture out into the professional world. She had been given many opportunities from an early age to experience a wide variety of "life". However, we noticed she needed some important personnel skills refined. Deborah King's knowledge of image and fine etiquette details gave Merrell the perfect abilities to step out and begin her new journey with ease and confidence. Mrs. King thank you for the boost you gave our daughter."
~ Lynn and Debbie Bryant
“As we look back on the skills that we learn as children, it seems that two; good command of the English language and good manners are the most important. I have literally not hired someone because of their bad manners, not wanting them to represent my Company. Ms King came and taught a class in my office. It was fun, entertaining, and enlightening. After attending, we all left with better skills and the confidence to better handle social situations. I would encourage anyone thinking about such a program to first look to Ms. King.”
~ Susan F. Hayes, Branch Manager, John L. Scott Real Estate
"It has been my pleasure to work with Deborah King of Final Touch Finishing School during the past two years. During that timeframe she has lead multiple classes, instructing children at our Club in the art of etiquette. The feedback from children participating in the program and parents alike has been overwhelmingly positive. I highly recommend her classes for children of all ages."
~ Renee Risch, Membership Director, Meadowood Napa Valley
"I just wanted to let you know that our Vice-Principal, Mrs. Johnson was thoroughly impressed with your lesson last week. And, excitingly enough, she said that she would always make sure that we had funding each year to allow the 8th graders the opportunity to have you instruct them on “proper” etiquette.
Since September, Mrs. Volding and I have noticed that the children are always repeating your “words of wisdom.” And, we certainly use,“respect for self and others,” everyday that we teach. During our recent open house, many of the parents expressed gratitude for having your program in our school and wanted more information on the classes you offer outside of school. They said that their children were actually attempting to put into practice what they had learned!
Andrea and I cannot tell you how much we appreciate you doing this for us. Out of all the extra classes the children have, this is the one that they look most forward to having."
~ Ms. Volding and Ms. Hoss, Holy Trinity Catholic School, Grapevine, TX
"Thank you so much for spending Saturday with our girls. I can see why you are in constant demand. Your ability to impart knowledge at appropriate age levels was superb and entertaining. All our feedback has been very positive."
~ Shirley Miller, Plymouth Park, United Methodist Church, TX
"I told my daughter Reland, and her friend Olivia, they were going to a ‘Manners Camp’. Poor Olivia thought I said ‘Mariners Camp’ for baseball and was aghast when she realized what she was in for. When I picked the girls up three hours later I was amazed! They both were bubbling with information and excitement. We went to lunch and they showed me the correct way to hold their utensils, use their napkins and push in their chairs! I’m happy to say it wasn’t a flash in the pan, they continue to use what they learned. You must be the ‘Mary Poppins’ of manners to make two 9 year old tomboys so excited!"
~ Gretchen Tuomi, Seattle, WA
"Thank you for coming and presenting your program for my 2nd and 3rd graders. I was so impressed with how much they learned about manners and social etiquette. The discussions and hands on activities were varied and perfect. In the months following I heard from many proud parents sharing stories of their children applying what they had learned. They were so thrilled and so was I!"
~ Jan Matheny, Grass Lake Elementary, Kent WA
"Wow! What a fantastic job you do with teaching kids manners! We went out to dinner on Sunday and our daughter, Rowenna, spent the evening teaching (correcting) us what she had learned. It was a kick! She’s inspired to learn more and I can’t thank you enough for that. All I’m hearing are rave reviews from the other parents. Our manners event was a huge success."
~ Kelly Clark, Girl Scout Event, Bothell, WA
"Deborah, thank you for your presentation. It was an overwhelming success and in fact we would like to have you come back next year. We thought your presentation was informative, lively, relevant and presented with a high degree of professionalism. You were terrific. Students are talking about the value of the evening and the information shared. All of the questions from students is a good indication of how effective you are and how relevant the topic is."
~ Naomi Sanchez, Ed.D., Director, MBA Career Services, University of WA
"The Etiquette and Portion Plate has been a fun and valuable tool for me, my husband and our three elementary age children. No longer is coming to the table and having a meal together the chore it used to be. Instead, confidence and pride in knowing where to place our utensils before, during and after a meal has been developed. It has been fun discovering how to plate our meal based on the nutrition circle from the Etiquette and Portion Plate. We and our children are amazed that their whole plate cannot be filled with pasta and we need so many vegetables! Thank you for this amazing dining tool!"
~ Lisa, Renton, Washington
"Deborah was able to effectively communicate the importance of etiquette in ways that I could not deliver the same message to my own family. As a former Department of Defense protocol officer I have worked with many experts in the field. Her knowledge was outstanding and her class for children was essential to helping positively position our family as we make impressions on clients while out in the community."
~ Amy, Colorado Springs, Colorado
"You and your wisdom continue to bless our family. Just this past week we were trying to explain to our 7 year old the apparent dichotomy of 'do not worry about what other people think of you, be true to yourself' and 'having good manners, because of how other people will feel around you.' Chantel was able to explain it clearly, 'Deborah King taught us....' and then she explained about avoiding drawing attention to oneself (and why!) and various methods for including others, keeping your own integrity intact and so on. It was a very powerful thing. Her dad and I agree that the money we spent this past summer was one of the best investments ever made in her future as well as in our own family's well-being. I see these things branching out into so many areas and even through generations."
~ Dorothy, Utah